I saw an awesome post (think it was ipodchick?) about how extended love triangles never end well and usually end up reflecting worst on the center character, and after agreeing, I realized something about this whole Delena/Stelena bullshit that made me feel bad for Elena for the first time in a…
“Elena, however, has been completely, thoroughly, and utterly destroyed.”
“The entirety of season one, she was such a wonderful lead for the show: smart, endearing, warm, spunky, and truly selfless. I WANTED her to make a selfish decision and keep Stefan in her life because I liked her so much that I wanted to see her happy. Stefan and her were perfect - two people who could and would legitimately save each other. There was no hero/damsel dynamic, they both took turns needing saving from totally different things, and both were capable of being the hero. It was respectful and pure”
“Elena’s strength wasn’t the right kind to handle someone like Damon: it was a quiet strength, the strength of a fighter who manages to love and have hope in spite of overwhelming sadness. It’s a vulnerable strength that a freaking hurricane of dominance and obsessive passion like Damon would bulldoze through and shatter in a heartbeat.”
“Elena needs support, not conflict, because she has a broken life, and to me, all Stefan did was support and bolster her. That’s why I loved them. Damon, to me, makes her crumble.”
“Over the seasons, she’s been reduced to six incredibly selfish words - ‘I don’t know what I feel’ - that sound NOTHING like the girl that immediately gave up Stefan, the only thing happy about her life, for a while because of the danger it could bring to her loved ones.”
August 2012
unpopular opinion: i wish teen wolf revolved around allison
I remember the 2003 NYC blackout like it was yesterday because I was [thisclose] to finishing Jak and Daxter Precursor Legacy for the first time at age 12 and it was definitely so much harder for me then than it is now and then my PS2 randomly turned off !!!! aodnuoa!!!ojnodfn029in!!!
and I was raging at my sister because she was sitting next to the plug so I though she pulled it by accident
omfg I think that was my first rage fit ever in my life
AskMen has done it again!
“They question our judgment. They question our expertise. They question our intelligence. They question our taste. It drives us absolutely crazy. In our quest to carve a better life, all we want is an impression of obedience and submission to our masculine dominance.”
Those silly FEMALES questioning things! It’s almost like they have minds of their own! It’s almost like they are autonomous human beings with wills, desires, and personalities! Can’t have that
And I think we deserve it if we earn it. You have to earn it. Otherwise you give real men who know how to control their women with a soft hand and sharp mind a bad name. So here’s what you doYes of course you deserve it, you deserve everything, you’re a MAN! There should be no question that you deserve a submissive fucktoy!
And here’s the real kicker…
“Be a real man and apply the advice in this article in order to manipulate the mind of your woman and gain control in your relationship. Remember; manipulation is neither cruel nor wrong if you love her. It is wise.”
Because as everyone knows, the way to raise up strong boys and men is to insist that their worth as men and their masculinity rest upon controlling women. And as we all know, domestic abuse is not cruel as long as you love her.
That article is horrible.
“Remember; manipulation is neither cruel nor wrong if you love her.”
“Remember; manipulation is neither cruel nor wrong if you love her.”
“Remember; manipulation is neither cruel nor wrong if you love her.”
“Remember; manipulation is neither cruel nor wrong if you love her.”
“Remember; manipulation is neither cruel nor wrong if you love her.”
REAL quote from the REAL article. It should be fucking illegal to publish this kind of tripe, and even more illegal to read it before I’ve had my coffee.
Wait. This is a thing?
I mean, I get that it’s coming from AskMen.com, but… Someone gave this the green light?
Dude.
Gosh, ladies, all they want is “an impression of obedience and submission to [their] masculine dominance.” Is that so much to ask? Complete obedience and submission to them because they’re men? Or at least pretending?
This article has subheads like “Condition your woman” (they recommend Pavlovian training. Really.) and “Draw her natural feminine instincts out.” Folks, if you see this article bookmarked on your partner’s computer, run like the wind.
FACT: married heterosexual men live longer than single hetero men. Why? Because their wives questions their taste, intelligence, expertise and judgment, like a good partner should. Some might call it nagging. “See a doctor. Get that mole checked out. Put on your seatbelt. No, you can’t buy a motorcycle off Craigslist. Did you pick up your prescription? You should be using mouthwash.”
NAGGING SAVES LIVES. But that’s cool, keep writing articles about “conditioning” us to live in the shadow of your masculine dominance.
- Sister: Do you remember waking up in the middle of the night yelling about spiders?
- Me: ... Yeh
- Sister: Were you high?
- Sister: What is my sister smoking I want some
- Sister:
- Sister:
- Sister:
- Sister: Somebody put ganja in your pillowcase
1. First impression: omg she is so quality and she ships sansan so hard what am i going to do i am so unworthy her blog is so pretty and her fics and art are flawless FOLLOW
2. Truth is: I go on your tumblr at least once a day lolllllll
3. How old do you look: I HAVE NEVER SEEN A PICTURE OF YOU
4. Have you ever made me laugh: YES
5. Have you ever made me mad: NEVER
6. Best feature: You are such a warm, kind-hearted person deserving of all the glittery things life has to offer. Also you are so fierce and hilarious when it comes to defending your otp, my role model fangirl tbh
7. Have I ever had a crush on you: i do right now
8. You’re my: most stalked tumblr
9. Name in my phone: n/a
I no longer need you to fuck me as hard
as I hate myself.
Make love to me
like you know I am better than the worst thing I ever did.
Go slow.
I’m new to this
but I have seen nearly every city from a rooftop without jumping.
I have realized
that the moon did not have to be full for us to love it.
We are not tragedies
stranded here beneath it.
Words cannot express how much I love my cousin for dragging me out of my hole today.
Oh my lord I don’t know how I can still stand.
We went to the gym and warmed up, she was working on her arms, I did 3 sets of 15 with 60 lbs squatting and then one same set with 50 lbs and 2 sets of curl ups with the bar 30 lbs and then she was like ‘we should do insanity.’
And I was all pumped I was like hell yes I would love that so much right now.
Oh my motherfucking god.
A half hour and we were literally dripping with sweat. Mind, I had been to school and worked this same day, she ran up hills for a half hour before our work out. We were dead. So what do we decide to do next?
Jump in her pool and swim ten laps in the dark, through leaves and twigs.
I love her.
Omg I am so dead on my feet and super emotional at the same time because I took my final this morning and I don’t know how I did and straight after I went to work for five hours on my feet running around and I haven’t genuinely spoken or seen Alban in days and I feel so alone in this stress I can’t fucking take it.
And now I’m going to kill myself(figuratively) at the gym so I can properly knock out tonight because I am so dead I am so dead I am so dead on my feet.
I purposely titled this essay to highlight Gabby Douglas’ leadership of the USA Women’s Gymnastics Olympic Team, which she led to victory yesterday, by capturing 33% or 1/3 of the total points the team received.
You heard right. This kid, who commentators continue to suggest is “unable to handle the pressure,” was the only member to compete in all four events — vault, bars, beam, and floor.
So though she’s only 1/5 of the team, she did 100% of the events, and captured 1/3 of the points.
Of course she didn’t get 33% of the coverage, or even a quarter of the love her teammates got.
During the medal ceremony the camera panned to and stayed with Jordyn, ofttimes obscuring Gabby’s face. Commentators were exultant about Jordyn’s gold medal. “Jordyn’s gold.” As though there were a medal with her name already engraved on it or something.
But um…
The Olympics trades in Gold Medals, not Gold Stars! Put another way, there are no “A’s for effort.”
I want to be clear. I have nothing but love for Jordyn. She’s the reigning world champ. She’s mega talented, and she showed up for Team USA in a major way yesterday. I do not want to diminish her accomplishments in any way in this post.
But I take serious issue with the media’s coverage of her accomplishments and the sense of white entitlement that permeates that coverage. The coverage magnifies Jordyn’s victories, while minimizing Gabby’s. And it isn’t right. Not to mention that it is classic passive aggressive white racism. (Yeah, I said it.) The kind that injures not by heaping insults but by failing to grant recognition, when it has power to do so.
Gabby didn’t receive the low score in any of her four events, and she received the highest score in two of them (beam and bars). (See all scores here. Click on the plus out to the side for individual scores in each event.) Gabby outscored Jordyn on each of the three events they competed in yesterday, and she outscored Aly in one of two events. She didn’t put up one score less than a 15.066 in any event.
The first to do floor, Gabby’s performance received a score of 15.066. Solid. I literally waited on the commentators to find anything good to say about the routine. *Crickets* They said virtually nothing. And then Jordyn performed. They were glowing with accolades and affirmations for her, in a routine that was technically less difficult than Gabby’s. When the scores came back, Jordyn had a 15.000. And you could almost hear the disappointment, not at Jordyn’s solid score, but that it was lower than Gabby’s.
I guess I should be happy that at least this time, the media found it appropriate to actually pan to some shots of Gabby’s family watching in the audience. But unlike her counterparts, they never said who those three Black people were. I guess we could just Match them up based on skin tone. Contrast that with the fact that every time they panned to Aly’s or Jordyn’s parents, there would be some commentary about their reactions.
I am extremely proud of team USA. I hope that is clear. I watched the Magnificent 7 win Gold in 1996. Most of these girls were barely toddlers then! After the interview, they talked about the 2004 Olympics as their most memorable one. Made me feel O.L.D. So it was truly awesome to watch us return to that former glory. And these girls deserve every bit of shine they get.
And I am determined at least in this space that Gabby will get her just due.
Because let’s be clear.
Gabby showed up for her team in each and every event, and in Black vernacular, she showed out! But that reminds me of some more ol’ school Black wisdom, too– “you have to be twice as good, to get half as far.” Every Black kid hears this at some point in her lifetime. It still rings true. And what our parents don’t say is that even then, you still might be invisible. Invisible, that is, in your accomplishments. Your flaws won’t be treated half so graciously.
Anyway, brush your shoulders off, Gabby. (Check her doing just that at the 1:02 mark!)
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They may not see you coming, Gabby. But know this. We see you! We SEE you! And we are cheering you on! #yougotthis
In 2008 Michael Phelps took home EIGHT gold medals. We celebrated him as an American hero.
This week, a pretty seventeen year old American swimmer took home a gold for USA. It’s Olympic history! Somebody get that girl some theme music and a reality T.V show!
Also this week, a…
